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Ulawo akalawo!!!!!! does it real make any different or matter......
3 years ago | 40490 Views
I'm sure every woman can relate to this topic. you might have been told or heard some other women or girls talking about it. but now the question is do we really understand and see the value of these. Is it just a cultural norm that we just believed in.
To me it all depends on where you come from. To most ladles who have aunties or grandmothers or even sisters and even during Girls' talk will know what I am talking about. Having mentioned these people; also depends if they knew or understood this and were willing to tell you about it.
Wonke umuntu wesifazane sakhula sitshelwa ngokubaluleka kwawo and uzwa abanye bethi yikho okwehlukanisa indoda lowe sifazane.Bakhona nalamhla-nje abasathi kukho konke abawuboni umsebenzi wamalebe and kusenziwa yikuba abazange bachazelwe. Honest some have seen the benefit of having them but to some it has not been of any use.
How important are amalebe vele. Ladies am going to tell you what I do understand and know and what I have got from my research. Above all, to correct some of the teachings that people have been taught and are so untrue.
Ngosiko lwethu thina kumele umuntu oyintombazane uma efika ebangeni elithize akwenze. It is our culture and do we need to follow it? ....Yes it is what defines us. Makhosikazi lingabe liyabuza ukuba yebo yiculture ngiyakholelwa yini kukho impendulo ngithi "yebo"...but ngoba sesiphila kuzindawo nezindawo lapho usiko elingasekho khona sekuphuma kuwe wena muntu ukuba ukholelwa kukho okunganani.
Are they of any use to women or the man one marries? Ladies the answer to this depends on who you marry and if that person knows about them and how to use them. It also depends on how one touches you and to some women kuba gijimisa imizwa kanti abanye lutho.
Now the question is..... Are they real necessary?..... To be honest with you it depends on you and kungcono ukuba nawo than ukungabi lawo ngoba if utshada umuntu owaziwo esekubuza ngawo kuthelela inhloni. Uma unawo kuba lula uma ekubuza ngawo wena umtshela ukuba ngawani and umfundisa ukuthi asebenzani and kusekukubabheni lapho laye azobona khona usizo lwawo. l have come across young women who have been asking about this topic and the reason being their men have asked them why they did not have them.
When does one start ukudonsa and uqalanini ukufundisa indodakazi yakho:- Mina ngazi kuthiwa if uwaqala early kuyasiza ngoba at least inyama zisathambile. Kodwa ke sekusiya ngomzali womntwana abanye bathi hayi why kumele ngihlukumeze ingane yami izadlala amatope abanye bathi yiso manje isikhathi leso lapho afundiseka khona.Kudala umntwana ubefundiswa uma nje eqala ukuphuhla. Lingakhohlwa ukuba abantwana bamanje sebekhula bebancane. Kudala kwakuthiwa uma umntwana oyintombazane efika kuage ye 12 - 13 kumele aqale ukufundiswa.
One thing I real don’t approve of is when elders start to scare the young people about it giving them all those reasons which are so untrue eg. It is wrong to say if you don't have these then be warned that you will never be married or you never have children and some are even say that if you don't have these then awusoze ubelabantwana. Teach them but do not scare them. When we say they will never marry or have kids it is like we are saying their happiness relies on them but the truth be told they are women who are happily married without them and have kids. Please stop making it sound as if it’s a deformality to have none cause it is not.
Mina ukuze ngithole that understanding ngabuza ugogo wami kudala ama reason bona they did it then. Well the answer was the same all for man mostly and for yourself, but what struck me was the other reason. The reasons ladies are not proven but when you real ly think about it, they do make sense. Remember that everything that has become cultural all started as a benefit and became a norm to the people.
Apparent long time ago there were used for the following reasons and that was before the pads and all... You were to pull them long enough so as to use them to cover yourself during that time of menstruation and another good reason was obaba babe wasebenzisa ukubuyisa ingaphansi kankosikazi ukuze ibetight. If this was true,lami angazi ngaphandle kokutshelwa nje and it still has to be proven. if that was the case then it was of good cause. Okunye okumele likwazi yisize yawo mina ngazi kulinganiswa ngocilikicane and the reason being that too long futhi abuye asubule, ubaba ikakhulu if laye enganqunywanga.
Ladies I will be lying to you if I say it is not necessary not to follow this culture cause it does affect some of you especially when it comes to pleasing the men who know about it. lf you are going to marry that cultural black African man the chances of you being asked about that is high. Please don't run away or ignore it and is so unfortunate that some ladies now after years want to know about them and is a shame cause they get asked by the man they marry. At the same time I would love to make it a choice. As the generations change so are our lifestyles too.
Lithini lina besilisa.